Experimenting in sex is always fun, but this applies only if all involved parties agree to the same thing. If you get the idea of trying out something new, the safest option is to have a word that will signal the other person to stop. So, let’s take a closer look at safe words and why they are so important.
Safe Words Prevents Possible Harm
If you are into kinkier things, using safe words is the only way to prevent harming yourself or your partner. That is especially important for all types of role-playing that can get a bit intense. And it is essential to talk about safe words’ importance during sex in general. Naturally, the first thing we know about sex is that it should always be done with consent. But just because a person agrees to try out something new, it doesn’t mean that they are ready.
They might get the idea of how things will go, and the reality can be something different. A perfect example is anal. Just because someone is willing to try it out, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to go through with it. Using a safe word will inform their partner that the fun should stop for whatever reason.
Of course, the more extreme your kink is, the more important the safe word will be. There are many people who are into role-playing, and the situation can get out of hand quite easily. Assuming that you are in a committed relationship and that you trust your partner, safe words will allow you to have fun without worrying about what-ifs.
Safe Words Build Trust
Using a safe word is like doing acrobatics with a safety net. Even if you don’t plan on using it, it is something that will allow you to feel comfortable and enjoy the fun. And this is one of the most important things when it comes to sexual acts. You need to trust your partner. It is easy to get carried away in the heat of the moment, and knowing that your partner will stop at the sound of the safe word is quite a big deal.
It is essential to be relaxed and know that nothing bad will happen if you hope to have a good time. And the only way to enjoy the fun with your partner is to trust them. Experimenting with different types of sex, role-play, or anything else will bring you closer together, and it will help you build trust. With every new adventure, you’ll be sure that your partner will be there for you and that they will follow the rule of the safe word.
If you aim to engage in new sexual activities with your partner, it is essential that you trust them. Communication is one of the most important parts of the relationship, and safe words can help you improve both communication and trust.
Safe Words Put Limits
Having some limits is essential no matter what you do. But it becomes even more important when you are experimenting with your partner. Testing your limits is great, but as long as you do it on your own terms. No one should force you to do anything you don’t feel like doing, and the same applies to you forcing your kinks on your partner.
And this is another example of how safe words can be an incredible addition to your sex life. Let’s take another look at anal sex. We all know how tricky it can be, and it isn’t something that all people will love. However, this doesn’t mean that you aren’t curious.
You can always include a safe word that will mean a break in your experiments. That way, you won’t need to worry whether it will be uncomfortable since you can just give up at the first sign of pain or discomfort.
Limiting your partner’s actions can be just the thing you need when trying out different things. What is also important is that safe word doesn’t need to apply solely to sex. You can use the same concept in any other aspect of your life or relationship.
Safe Words Mean Respect
Similar to how this word shows commitment and trust, you can also use it as a way of showing respect. By agreeing to your partner’s limits, you will show that you value them as a person and that you respect their wishes. Yes, they might want to try something at one point, but that doesn’t mean that you should push them until it’s done.
Naturally, that applies to sex as well. A person should always experiment with stuff on their own terms, and no one should force them to pick a different tempo. There is no way for someone to know how you feel unless you tell them. And the simplest way is to use a safe word.
As for respect, it means respecting one’s boundaries, limits, wishes, and desires. There is nothing wrong with asking your partner whether they will be willing to try out something. But using a safe word is the only way to ensure that you have continual consent.
Safe Words Mean You Know Yourself Better
We talked about respecting one’s desires and limits and how they should respect yours. But there is one last thing we need to mention as well. And that’s knowing yourself. We can’t know whether we will enjoy something unless we try it.
But in the middle of the trying process, we might discover that we hate every single thing about that idea. And that’s perfectly fine. The only way we can learn about things is by experimenting and trying out something new and exciting.
Furthermore, you will get to learn what is good for you and what’s not. At the same time, you are the one that knows what’s best for you. So, if you are having fun with your partner, both you and them should stick to the agreement and what the other person wishes to do. And if safe words will help you show respect and trust, then they are the best possible option.
Male chastity is not new; the origins are a bit clouded in history. Still, the idea of orgasm control fascinates so many. When you start in chastity, it may seem daunting or it may be pure excitement. So many think you can just lock up a penis and that’s it, yet there is so much more to this journey.
This is a wonderful basic concept for a cage as it uses the testicles as an anchor point that an O ring is fitted around. There is a spacer and a cage. The spacer puts a small gap between the testicles and the locking point of the device.
What is nice about this design is that you can find it in lightweight surgical plastic, silicone, stainless steel, or carbon fiber. The cage will come in different lengths and patterns. The choice of materials is up to the wearer; however, I personally recommend a good stainless steel cage.
The Male Chastity Belt:
This is a belt, usually leather that runs from the device to the cage. Or, the other is a full shield design that covers the penis and testicles. This design is best for short term use or as an addition to a cage. The full shield can be difficult to maintain for bathroom duties.
A Chastity Piercing:
This is body modification and not to be entered into lightly as it takes time to heal and additional care afterwards. It is recommended that you find a professional, certified, and licensed person or shop in your area. Based on your penis size and shape and foreskin, there are a few configurations for piercings.
There are two parts when starting down the male chastity path that will become very clear. As a newcomer, it’s hard not to want to dive right in; however, without doing a bit of work, you will only find frustration. Many men that think about chastity, it’s fantasy and sex driven, which is never a bad place to start. It becomes an obsession, and that is where the chastity adventure begins.
The Physical Side:
Getting used to the device. For the first little while, you will want to start with short term wear. A play session or a night out is a great start. This will allow time to adjust spacers and rings. Once you have the most comfortable configuration, you can begin with overnight lockups. This could take a while to be able to concur this hurtle. Don’t give up. It will happen.
It is important to know that chafing, bruises, or tender spots might happen. If they do happen, refrain from using the device and allow healing to happen. It is perfectly normal.
It is also necessary to be clean in your device. Q-tips and pipe cleaners will be your best friends. You need to keep the penis as dry as possible. It’s highly recommended that once a week at least, the device be removed for cleaning. It’s at this time the penis can be examined, cleaned, and cared for (sans orgasm, of course).
The last stage is to add days. Once you can get to two or three full days, you can push limits. The easy part is now done.
The Emotional Side:
Here is a word of caution; many ladies lose interest in the idea of chastity for their male at this point, as this is an emotional journey for the male. In society, we have conditioned (though I do not condone this) men to show little feeling or pack it all down, and the end game of sex for men is almost certainly orgasm with ejaculation.
When males start this journey, they will find they are going to experience emotions that they will need to process. The key holder will need to be supportive yet firm during this stage of chastity training. To help in this, before you begin, discuss a length of time the male is to be locked up. Both parties need to be reasonable with time expectations. In the end, set a time for unlocking and stick to it.
The emotional side tends to be the failing point in a lot of chastity adventures. There are a few things you can do to help.
As the Female:
Be firm with the date of release.
Keep him focused on the end goal.
Allow and encourage him to be attentive to you.
Set small tasks that he can do.
Tease him often.
Listen to him and his concerns.
Allow him his feelings and DO NOT tease or humiliate him for them.
As the Male:
Don’t be afraid to talk about what you’re feeling.
Remember little things matter.
Now is the time to please her.
Talk about the fantasy. It will give her ideas.
Leave the expectations at the door.
This is a journey for two people and it’s important to both find value in the experience. This is one of those kinks that fits the saying: “It’s not the destination, but the journey that matters.”
Even though it kinda seems like we’ve been in 2020 for….2o years, it’s hard to believe we’re only four months into the whole thing. Like, it sure feels like we’ve been in this year for a while. Last year we brought you our roundup of the best selling sex toys from 2019 and polled a bunch of sex toy retailers on their top sellers, and now, on a rando Thursday in April, we’re doing the same thing, but for 2020 — because why not? Feels like it’s been a year, right?
When looking for sex toys, it can be a good idea to go with the most popular toys to get a sense of what’s working for everyone else. Of course, every body is different and what works for the majority, might be the biggest disappointment of your life — but, how will you know unless you try? Generally speaking, uber popular picks that perform well time and time again across multiple sites are a good entry point. You can pretty much guarantee that it gets some people off, and it’s likelier to be a good product with a following and not just a rando one-off thing bought for convenience’s sake.
Here’s our roundup of 2020’s top selling sex toys so far, according to popular sex toy sites like Lelo, Babeland, Adam & Eve, PinkCherry, Lovehoney, b-Vibe, Le Wand, and Dame.
1. Sona 2 Cruise
The newest version of their game-changing Sona, the Sona 2 uses sonic waves to stimulate your whole clitoris without vibration that’ll numb you to the point of frustration. The newest version has more settings, so it starts out on a gentler intensity, and the opening is larger, so it fits a wider range of anatomy.
2. Soraya 2
It might not look like your average Rabbit vibe, but the Soraya 2 is actually designed with the same internal and external clitoral stimulation in mind. It’s like a Rabbit, if it became an art piece. The sleek gold detailing and ergonomic loop mean you can get it on without hand cramps. It’s USB rechargeable, waterproof, and has 12 settings.
3. F1S Developer’s Kit Red
The F1s Developer Kit might be the fanciest blowjob sleeve, ever. There’s a window so you can see the toy stroking, ten sensors, and it’s got controls designed specifically for one-handed use. It comes with an SDK, which allows users to modify and track their toy patterns, and also gloves? For all the typing you’ll be doing once you’re obsessed with modifying your F1s.
1. Magic Wand Rechargeable
The Magic Wand Original came out in the 70s, and while it’s still uber, uber, uber popular, the newer version is rechargeable and cordless, which is clutch, because you no longer need to be hooked up to a friggin’ wall outlet to use it.
2. Satisfyer Pro 2
The Satisfyer Pro 2 uses suction (feels kinda similar to the Lelo Sona) but is way cheaper, albeit not as cute. Where the Lelo Sona is all Silicone with gold detailing, the Satisfyer is mostly plastic, with only silicone on the opening for your clit. That being said, it’s a damn good price, and a pretty good product too. If you don’t like the squat shape of the Lelo Sona, the curved handle of the Satisfyer might be better for you as well.
3. Magic Wand Original
The original, corded Magic Wand is legit 50 years old, but still slaps, as people are discovering every day. It’s probably the most powerful vibrator out there, and is so clutch that people are still willing to buy the corded version just to keep using it. It’s also pretty affordable — what other cult-status toy can you buy for $60?
FROM ADAM & EVE:
1. Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation
The Satisfyer Pro 2 also tops the list of best sellers from Adam & Eve — and it’s slightly less expensive than at Babeland.
2. Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl Rabbit Vibrator
The Greedy Girl Rabbit vibrator is probably one of the best Rabbits you can buy under $100. It’s got two independent motors for tons of power, 12 shaft vibration modes, and three clitoral stimulating modes. It was originally released way back in the Fifty Shades heyday but it’s such a damn good toy that it keeps selling like hotcakes. Here’s to hoping they never stop making it, even when Fifty Shades is like, thirty years old.
3. Pure Enrichment Peak Wand Massager
This smol wand-shaped massager is lightweight, waterproof, and has seven vibration modes. If you need something more powerful than a bullet, that isn’t necessarily insertable, this Peak Wand is a good bet.
1. Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation
This is the newer version of the Satisfyer Pro 2, which means it’s got a redesigned shape (So angular! Looks like a knife!) and looks a bit sleeker than the ol’ nubby generation of Satisfyer toys (more on that in a minute). If you’re like, “The newer version is somehow cheaper! This is too good to be true!” — you’re right. It is cheaper, but it’s also battery-operated. Sigh.
2. The Original Magic Wand
She strikes again!
3. Satisfyer Pro Penguin Next Generation Clitoral Stimulator
The first line of Satisfyer toys all had this nubby little base, and none of them were cuter than the Satisfyer Pro Penguin, which was yeah, designed to look like a penguin wearing a bow tie. I hope they never run out of these cute Pro Penguins, because that was an ERA. P.S. This one’s also USB rechargeable!
1. Magic Wand Rechargeable Extra Powerful Cordless Vibrator
Annnnd another Magic Wand Rechargeable takes the top spot!
2. Lovehoney Jessica Rabbit 10 Function Rabbit Vibrator
This model is a good intro to Rabbit vibes because of the price point, but it’s also battery-operated, which isn’t great from an environmental or efficiency standard. Pretty much all higher end, quality toys, are rechargeable. But, that price though! There’s three speeds, seven patterns, and it’s waterproof (not all battery toys are waterproof, so this is a plus!).
3. Desire Luxury Rechargeable Remote Control Panty Vibrator
This panty vibe is not only affordable (it’s not unusual to see panty vibes going for more — way more), it’s also super popular because it delivers. It’s been around for a few years now, and the fact that it’s still a top seller says a lot about how good it is. It comes with an adjustable panty for the vibe, and a remote that can be controlled up to eight meters away from the actual vibrator.
1. Anal Training & Education Set
The seven-piece Anal Training & Education Set includes a small silicone butt plug, a medium vibrating butt plug, large weighted butt plug, a lube applicator, zipper travel bag, and a complete guide to anal play, so you can buy this one kit and have it all there.
2. Swirl Texture Plug
This textured plug features a swirl design to feel unlike anything you’ve ever tried before. It also vibrates, with an easy one-touch button that cycles through six different vibration modes. The Swirl is the medium sized toy in the collection, and the smaller option has a bunch of little bumps on it, with the large one has horizontal ripples of varying sizes.
3. Snug Plug 2
This weighted plug is just one notch more intermediate than the beginner level one (they go from 1-5) so it’s a great place to start if you know you like anal play, but are still kinda figuring out your footing. It also comes with a handy case for travel, so you don’t have to have your precious butt plug rolling around a random drawer or worse, sitting in a sad Ziploc bag.
This curved clitoral vibrator not only looks super chic, it’s also designed to cover all your genitalia for a full-on sensation. You can hold it against you, or grind against it. It’s USB rechargeable, waterproof, has 15 vibration modes and six intensities, and it’s also weighted. This means that it’s easier than ever to use, as the heft of the vibe will lay on your body and you can go hands-free.
2. Grand Bullet
This textured bullet is 40% more powerful than LeWand’s already powerful Bullet, meaning, it does not eff around. The textured grip makes it easier to handle, or you can also flip it and use that on your clit for a new sensation with the little nubs and some lube.
3. Petite Wand
The ultra-powerful Petite Wand is LeWand’s shower-friendly version of their OG LeWand. It comes in cute colors (got my eye on that blue one) and is fully USB rechargeable and cordless.
1. Eva II
This cute little beetle-shaped vibrator is designed specifically for hands-free penetrative sex, as the little spring-loaded wings rest against your labia during PIV. It’s a great idea in theory, but one thing to note: because so much of the cool design relies on it fitting properly (and it only has one size), if you have asymmetrical labia, very large or very small labia, it may not fit perrrrfectly.
The flexible Pom is USB rechargeable, waterproof, and features five patterns and speeds, all under a sleek, medical grade silicone casing. The curve means it’s similar in idea to the LeWand Point in that you can rest it on the curve of your mons pubis for max stimulation (this one’s not weighted tho).
Not really a sex toy-toy, but still VERY worth mentioning (we’re fans, can you tell?) is Dame’s top third seller, the Pillo. It’s a specially designed wedge/cushion/pillow that you can prop underneath you during sex to make even your already favorite positions, that much better.
Steel chastity belts look great and can be quite functional, but starting off with chastity can be a bit daunting. The modern chastity belt doesn’t share much with the medieval style chastity belts seen in movies. The newer styles are sleek, neat and hygienic and comfortable enough to wear for a week at a time.
Chastity is an interesting concept and people sometimes start off with the idea of trying it out to heighten the experience of sexual play, and this becomes so exciting, that many people become chastity lifestylers.
How to play
BDSM is often associated with chastity games used to tease and control and this is where chastity belts come in handy. The main idea is to make the genitals inaccessible until released from chastity. This allows their partner to excite them and keep their desires under control without allowing for masturbation or release (although any device can be bypassed if the person is desperate enough). There is a lot of trust involved as the key-holder trusts the person in chastity to not attempt other forms of release and the person in chastity relies on their key holder to release them at an agreed upon time. There are various devices for men and women, but one of the most traditional is the chastity belt.
The design of the female chastity belt has stayed fairly true to its roots over the years, with a belt around the waist and a strap that attaches to the belt, both in the front and the back and closes off access to the vagina. While some of the ones available today are very bulky and cannot easily be hidden under clothing, others are smooth and sleek and can be concealed when wearing the right type of clothing. The chastity belt generally allows for natural bodily functions while preventing anything above a certain size being able to go in. Some of the makes have teeth on the inside of the holes to further prevent anything being inserted, but smooth is generally cleaner and more hygienic.
Chastity belts generally come equipped with lock and key and some even have 2 sets of locks. There are belts available without locks, but these are designed for aesthetics and enjoyment, not for chastity. The keys are usually held by a key holder that is trusted by the person in chastity and emergency measures are discussed before the device is fitted and the keys handed over. Make sure there is a spare and that it can be accessed in dire circumstances. There also needs to be tools available should something unforeseen happen to both keys and the device needing to be cut off.
Fitting & Safety
It is very important that the chastity belt is fitted properly and that there is good blood flow and no excess friction. The belt should be fitted comfortably without allowing for a lot of movement to prevent chafing and pain. There should not be pain when wearing the belts. If you do have any major discomfort, remove the device immediately and do not wear again for a few days.
When purchasing a chastity belt it is important to buy from a reliable supplier that sells products that are body safe and who provides back up and support for the products. It is important to know that what you are buying matches up to the description and that the chastity belts do not contain any unsafe materials, especially considering it is going to be sitting against very vulnerable areas of the body. Some suppliers also offer additional items such as decorative chains, waist and leg straps, insert-able, locks with timer options and so forth.
To ensure your belt fits properly, you need to use a dressmaker’s measuring tape and measure your waistline, midway between your hip bones and rib cage, in line with your belly button. For models that have a secondary loop or sit on the hips, you will also need your hip measurement. Measure on the hip bone in the same was as your waist.
For the crotch length you need to ensure you know if you are getting a waist or a hip fitting belt, then wrap a belt or piece of material around your body at the same level. Run the tape measure from the front to the back, between your legs with the tape end on the belt in the front and the measurement being taken where it meets the belt in the back (or measure from back to front if easier). Measure the front crotch from the belt to the vagina to determine where the wider area should be. Measure from the back belt to where your anus is to ensure the whole area is in the correct place for bathroom use. Some suppliers may require more measurements to ensure the belt fits properly.
Keeping it clean
Material used for chastity belts usually include titanium, medical grade stainless steel, silicone, polycarbonate, ABS plastic or combinations of these products which are body safe and easy to keep clean. It is important that the materials can be effectively cleaned and sterilized to prevent harm. It is important that you wash around the area and as much as you can reach of the inside of the device on a daily basis. Wash with soap and water for most of the chastity belt but use only water and a soft cloth in the vaginal area. You also need to ensure that everything is dried very wall after washing. Use a cool hair dryer or fan if necessary. This will reduce the risk of infections and bad smells in the area. It is also very important that the chastity belt is removed at least once a week for a thorough cleaning of the area as well as the belt. This is to help the belt last longer and to keep the genital area hygienic and free of nasty germs which can cause harm. If possible, clean the belt with a disinfectant wash that is body safe and hang it in sunlight to dry as this kills more germs. Check the belt regularly for signs of damage to prevent skin irritation and replace it once it starts causing chaffing or other irritation of the skin or genitals.
Chastity can be great fun and a way to enhance your sex life or as part of BDSM games. It can also become a lifestyle choice. Just remember to always keep it safe and consensual!
Do you feel like plain old anal toys aren’t doing it for you anymore? Does it always feel like you need more? Settle down because we’re here to present you with the extreme anal toy that will fulfill all of your anal fantasies.
It’s not entirely beginner-friendly, but hey, who’s the judge of that? Don’t knock it until you try it. However, we do recommend at least some anal experience. It doesn’t need to be anal sex — any type of anal play that includes anal toys should do.
It might be a little intimidating at first, but this toy is here to serve you. You’re in complete control. So we think it’s time to expand both your horizons and your anus.
What Is a Locking Butt Plug?
We’re about to dive deep into the world of extreme toys. Anal play might’ve looked like a piece of cake before, but not anymore. Not with a lockable butt plug at hand. This toy is for some serious backdoor plays.
Locked and Loaded
A locking butt plug isn’t your regular toy. Think of inflatable or anchor plugs, but more heavy-duty — they’re heavy and robust, made of stainless steel or aluminum. Your anus must be holding onto them for dear life because we have no other explanation as to why they don’t fall out.
The toy itself might be large, but without expanding, that’s all it is — a large plug. So, you can use it as such. It has three petal-shaped prongs that do a fantastic job of stretching your anus, and the rounded tip makes for smooth insertion. At the (other) end, there’s a flared base with a button or a plunge, and lastly, a hole for your padlock or little timer lock.
Let’s talk about how it works. It is simple — pushing the button/pulling the plunge makes the toy expand. In turn, it makes your anus stretch open. It doesn’t immediately expand to the fullest extent, though — you’re in control of how fast (or slow) you want things to go. You can practice opening and closing the plug too. Once you’re happy with your newly acquired anal width, it’s time to lock it all in place.
It’s pretty simple. You find the width you’re comfortable with, and you put a padlock on. Now what? Nothing. Try not to sit down for a while. This is not a plug you can remove easily or on a whim. That is great for control play or anal chastity practice, though. You can practice alone, or with a partner you really trust.
You should just make sure you don’t lose the key.
Who Uses Lockable Butt Plug?
We can’t really say this toy is reserved for anyone in particular. If you have some anal play experience and feel comfortable, you’re free to try it. However, it’s most commonly used in BDSM plays or for those who have extreme butt plug needs.
People who are into control or Dom/Sub play find this toy incredibly helpful. The person in control gets to decide how much the Sub’s anus will stretch. After that, they decide how long they will keep the toy locked in place. It’s quite useful when your Sub misbehaves, and you want to teach them a lesson.
This toy gives you incredible sensations, too. So it’s not all torture and punishment — you just have to open up to it and let it open you up in return. That might not be ideal for you if you’re new to anal or BDSM.
Give yourself some time to try other things before you try extreme anal insertion.
Locking Butt Plug as Anal Chastity
We’ve briefly mentioned anal chastity, so let’s give it more attention. Locking plugs are an amazing anal chastity device, similarly how cock cages work for penises.
What is the main difference, though? This chastity plug isn’t that comfortable for prolonged wear. If you have experience with stuff like this, then you may decide for yourself. But considering the heaviness and how it works, it doesn’t sound like something you could wear for a full day.
But hey — maybe you’re ambitious.
When you lock it in place, there’s no going back. There’s no way out either. All you can do is hope for a key because it’s not at your disposal. Obviously, this prevents any type of anal satisfaction. It can be incredible for people who love anal.
Once your master decides you’ve been good, you’re set free to enjoy yourself.
The Sensation of Using a Locking Butt Plug
But what is it really like using this plug? It’s actually great if you’re trying to work your way up to bigger plugs.
When not expanded, it’s just a regular plug. But you can use the expanding feature to your advantage. How? Expand it little by little. That way, you won’t go overboard, and you’ll stretch yourself out just enough. Or at least as much as you want to.
Once it has expanded, though, you will get this feeling of fullness. Like you’re trying to have a bowel movement but in a good, sexy way. That might not be the sensation you’re looking for, and that’s perfectly fine. For some, though, this is what sends them over the orgasm edge.
The locking factor is incredible for BDSM enthusiasts. Just knowing that someone else has that control is what makes all the difference. That’s why it’s the perfect anal toy for control plays.
If you’re an anal extremist, this is the toy for you. They’re super fun and sometimes risky too.
Anal plays as a whole are incredibly pleasurable. Getting into them is something everyone should do. But what happens when you can’t seem to get enough of your regular toys? That’s when you reach for something like a lockable butt plug.
You can practice the BDSM aspect of it on your own, too. Reclaim the control of yourself or practice self-control. Maybe you play with your butt a little too much, and you’ve decided to chill out a bit and prevent addiction? Lock this toy in place, and you’re guaranteed to lose your habits, at least until your backside is unlocked again.
Chastity belts sit at the crux of BDSM role play. They are strategically designed to keep the genitals of the sub locked in while the key rests with the dom. Genitals are a great source of power, especially for males. And to offer complete control of the genitals to another person leads to confer of power which is immensely arousing both for the sub and the dom. Chastity belts are available both for men and women and you can choose as per your specific role-play themes.
Are you aspiring to try chastity belts with your partner but apprehensive of his/her reactions? Well, if you have not tried BDSM plays with your partner before, chastity belts could be really intimidating for him/her. In that case, you would have to intimate your partner about the whole aspect of BDSM and its very sensuous appeal. Once your partner gets used to the basic concept of BDSM, you can gradually introduce props like chastity belts in the game.
On the other hand, the job gets a step easier when your partner is already aware of the notion of BDSM. Now, let’s assume that your partner is comfortable with the elementary level of BDSM play. So, how will you introduce chastity belt in your relationship and make him/her excited about it? Well, it’s a very delicate task no doubt but you have the pro tips here to inspire your partner to try out chastity belt.
Increase your partner’s know-how
Intimidation or fear about something is often the result of lack of proper knowledge about the concept. A chastity belt can seem to be pretty scary especially for those who haven’t seen it before. Your first task here is to remove that layer of intimidation by educating your partner about the belt and making him or her familiar about it.
Tell your partner the belt is not some new controversial risk and that it has been in existence since the middle ages. It has been widely used among couples who practiced BDSM play and it has had never been harmful, unless used inappropriately. You will find several articles, documents and pictures containing sizeable information about chastity belt. More your partner will know about it, better would be her/his vibes about the belt. Another thing that would help is let her browse through the new pages from the lovegasm website, and let her do the shopping for a chastity belt.
Talk about the amazing arousal
The very thing that seems so scary about chastity belt (genitals kept locked in) could be immensely arousing once a person gets used to the belt. The main aim of the belt is denial of masturbation, orgasm and sex for the person wearing the belt. It leaves the sub with impending orgasm which explodes into a mindblowing climax once the belt is released of the lock. Once you get comfortable with the belt, you will be ready to give away anything in the world to achieve that divine level of orgasm.
So, share those amazing feelings with your partner to inspire him/her to try out a chastity belt. You will find various forums and articles where chastity belt users share about the awesome experiences they have enjoyed with the chastity belt.
Assure about “consent”
A chastity belt that locks in your genitals leaves the sub completely at the mercy of the dom. And that can be pretty terrifying for anybody, even if the person is acquainted with the concept of BDSM. The notion of “consent” plays a crucial role here even if you are using the chastity belt with your real-life partner. Don’t forget both of you are independent individuals and nobody here owns anybody. So, “consent” is extremely important to ensure a healthy, safe and fun play with chastity belt.
Share it with your partner that the entire act with chastity belt will be a consensual affair. Right from choosing a chastity belt to the duration of wearing it, will be determined as per the consent of your partner. Once s/he gets this assurance that her/his consent will matter in the play, s/h will be more confident to try it.
Once you get the consent of your partner, make sure to follow it to the T. Don’t forget, the basis of every BDSM act is fair play.
Discuss sexy ideas to try with the belt
One of the best ways to excite your partner about chastity belt is discussion of sexy acts you may try with the belt. Here is a brief on couple of them.
This tip would be especially great when the sub is a man. Strip your man naked and put him inside a chastity belt. Make him sit on a chair a few steps away from you. Now, take out your clothes one by one and start touching yourself. Press your boobs, run your fingers down under and feel the stimulation. Make him watch you getting all aroused which will eventually arouse him as well and inspire him to masturbate or have sex with you. But he is wearing a chastity belt this time which means doors are locked. It will leave him frustrated with pending orgasm that will result in a super powerful climax once you set the lock free.
Strip him naked and tie his hands. Wrap the chastity belt around him. Now, drive him crazy with passionate nibbles and kisses all over his body. He would long to fuck you but the belt would prevent him. The result, as mentioned above, would be an explosive climax once you will open the belt lock.
Try to be as explicit as possible while discussing these acts with your partner. You have to make him or her picturize the whole thing to get the actual vibe. If you can make your partner aroused about the whole thing, half of the battle is won.
Be careful of “safety” word
Prolonged usage of chastity belts is never sexy and can be pretty damaging for the sub’s health. Thus, the moment your partner will feel even the slightest of discomfort, you will immediately unlock the belt and take it out of him/her. In that light, it’s better to have a pre-determined safety word. It’s like a safety code which your partner has to use if s/he feels any sort of uneasiness or pan with the belt on.
The whip bear can offer you a wide range of male chastity clamps for a small price. We carry penis cages made of chrome, stainless steel and silicone. Many people love to use DIY cock age too.
A penis metal cage or rather a plastic CB-6000
Now, one or the other may think that a metal penis cage is too heavy and bulky to wear for a long time. But that is exactly the attraction for many men. The cages weigh on average between 300 and 400 grams. The weight of the penis cage pulls on penis and testicles alike, around which the cock ring is placed. This pulling does not hurt most men but on the contrary. Many feel excited. Commonly the cage then prevents this excitement so well that it cannot come to a complete erection.
All penile cages, even those with the dilators, such as the penis cage with dilator or the chastity belt for him , you can well and happy to wear for a long time. The dilators are perforated throughout so you can meet your human needs.
The penis cage made of metal is both mysterious and exciting
With that you can really be proud of. The interaction between bare skin and metal always stimulates the senses. Just imagine how you are staring at the penis cage when you present it laid out. All cages come with a lock and 3 keys (if one is lost).
We recommend that the chastity cage be dried after each use. This has the background that we do not want your penis cage to start rusting. Also supposedly stainless steel products and items with a chrome alloy can rust. This is a simple chemical process. Metal meets water and oxygen. If you clean your metal cages from time to time and then dry them, you can wear them for a lifetime.
Penis cage with adjustable cock ring
A very special model is the heavy duty stainless steel penis cage. Here you can freely adjust both the length of the cage and the size of the cock ring. Please also try our silicone chastity clamps . To these BDSM cages several cock rings in different sizes are delivered.
A penis cage is in the BDSM scene a popular toy to torment relish. The penis cage reminds at first glance of a medieval prop that was used for the purpose of chastity. In fact, a penile cage is used today to achieve a particular form of stimulation and maximize pleasure rather than limiting it. How far can you play the game with the excitement? This question is all about the penis cage.
The special attraction is the loss of control, because you give full control over your own arousal to your partner. He owns the key and decides when to save you. So, be good to him or her! The penis cage can be made of flexible material such as rubber or silicone. But it can also consist of completely unyielding metal. The penis cage can be tube-like, it can be closed, open or partially open executed.
For beginners especially chastity buckles made of silicone are suitable because they have a residual flexibility. They are ideal to get a sense of the tightness of the cage. Transparent penis cages allow a good view of things and it can be checked if it fits well. A metal cage gives the wearer a lot of fun but is much more restrictive.
A middle course can be a penis cage made of hard plastic. He is also relentless, but should the penis twisted, so that the lock is stuck, the penis can be freed using a simple forceps or the like. With the metal cage liberation is not so easy. Then probably the locksmith would have to be called.
How is the penis cage created?
The penis cage is absolutely comfortable to wear. It consists of high-quality, hypoallergenic material and leaves enough air in the special places. The penis cage is sometimes delivered as a kind of kit, so you can create it just as you want it. The scope of delivery may include, for example, various penis rings, as well as spacers and locks. Before donning it is always advisable to apply lubricant.
What to look for in the penis cage?
To enjoy the game of loss of control for a long time, you should make sure that the penis cage is always well cleaned. A complete body cleansing is not possible with a cage. It also makes sense to shave the genital area, so that no hairs can pinch and tweak. Prolonged carrying of the cage can also lead to chafing and infection.
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In the true sense, the penis cage is not a garment , but can be worn as such under everyday wear permanently. The penis cage – also called chastity belt for the man – is a device in which the penis is inserted in a relaxed condition. This chastity cage is designed to prevent an erection and above all to prohibit the possibility of masturbation for the man.
Therefore, a penis cage is usually provided with a lock that is locked and the key is in the custody of the key holder, the so-called key mistress, Only she decides, therefore, when the chastity belt (KG) is unlocked again and the KG-slave may empty the semen. Many key mistresses take the milking or a prostate massage for testicular emptying in the context of chastity education itself to keep the pleasure of orgasm as low as possible.
A penis cage is used for chastity education to educate a horny slave to humility and teach him that he should not see women as sex objects and instead submit to the rule. In general, during chastity education, a transformation of the slave’s psyche and his fixation on sex are transformed into a humble attitude towards his KG mistress.
The wearing of a KG must be learned slowly and the penis cage must fit exactly to avoid injury or damage. In the BDSM game, which is limited in time and only takes one or a few hours, a chastity cage made of steel or leather can be administered. Serves the penis cage for permanent KG education and is worn for days or weeks, it should be a hygienically well usable penile cage, such as hard plastic. These are available in different sizes and shapes and usually a penis cage can also be individually adjusted and regulated.
When I talk with my friends and with their children (who are between 20 and 25 years old) about mutual feelings and premarital relationships, I always hear the same thing – it is impossible without sex. It’s amazing that not only young people think this way. Recently, telling a family psychotherapist (with 40 years of work experience) about a girl who, having absolute success with men did not enter into close relationships with anyone unexpectedly came across a dismissive “ist.” You need to have the best Male chastity guide for the same.
The power of hormones is so great that it is very difficult to cope with it. Let my son get mad, a caring mother will say. Oh well. Just why would she never agree to her son marrying that one who had turned up first for the administration of his lust?
Yes, very simply, because this girl (in most cases) does not meet any norms of elementary morality. You do not feel the caustic taste of hypocrisy here?
Those girls who believe that “this” is necessary for health or that the relationship must be accompanied by intimacy, even after suffering many sorrows and disappointments, remain in complete delusion and do not see the real reason for their failures in their personal lives.
At the reception comes a girl of 22 years. She was thrown by a young man (a Muslim who came to work) when she became pregnant. The girl complains to me that her beloved was not ready to become a father, because he did not know what a beautiful child she would be born to. But if he saw him, she thinks, he would come back and become an exemplary family man.
I do not know. One day, an ambassador from an eastern state came to me for a consultation, asking for advice on how to find the perfect girl for marriage. At the age of 47, he tried countless young and very beautiful Moscow girls, but he never met his fate, although by this time he really wanted to have children. I consulted him in the Christian tradition, but he kept saying about sensuality, about blissful sex, about the fact that he is very kind and good, but women cannot understand him even after a month of violent sex, there comes a cooling because of the depravity of a woman due to her excessive talkativeness or because of her indiscreet desires and requests to buy something for her, etc.
And when, after my attempts to explain something to him, I asked him – what is the most important thing that should be in the woman from whom he wanted to have children and with which he would have planned to live all his life? He invariably answered – looks that could awaken crazy sexual feelings, and that sex with her was the height of bliss to the end of his days. And after all, some Russian men of mature age with an immature psyche, the development of which is inhibited by fornication, are considered the same.Sometimes you want to shout. Hey! People, you are lost! From the word fornication, which means intimacy without marriage? You, probably, heard about such an outdated and little used word chastity.
So all the same about chastity
In dictionary it is written that chastity is the same as virginity.If this is so, then this is the trivial preservation of a certain physiology before marriage or the fulfillment of the law, which is somewhere written by someone, and the non-observance of which is not punishable by fine or prison.
So who needs such a law?
Such chastity is found in Islam, in which there are punishments provided for by the laws of Sharia (Islamic law developed on the basis of the Koran and the Hadith). For example, 100 lash for adultery for an unmarried woman or a man who is single.
What does chastity mean for Christians, for people brought up in the Orthodox tradition?
Chastity is the integrity of wisdom, the sacred meaning of which lies beyond the surface of today’s man in the street that has chosen his motto – God, give us what to eat and drink, and the Kingdom of Heaven will follow us.
Chastity is a person’s observance of a conscious self-prohibition of knowing, experiencing and accomplishing everything that can weaken or destroy the ability to resist and resist evil. At the heart of chastity is shame, thanks to which the human soul remains whole, as shame keeps it from falling into a state of depravity. Chaste are distinguished integrity, harmony, and purity. The main purpose of chastity is to protect the fragile soul of a person, to let it form. It is a kind of haze that harbors a young soul from so far unbearable trials, thanks to which human abilities can calmly and smoothly develop.
At first, the chastity and the associated penis cage may sound a bit daunting to one or the other. But if you engage more intensively with the chastity, then for many not only the interest grows, but also the curiosity to try it for yourself. For more and more people this is the beginning of an extremely exciting experience, namely the rediscovery of their own sexuality. As soon as you start wearing a penis cage and have the benefit of male chastity, you will not be able to get away from it. So here is the history of cock cages for you.
If you have decided to buy penile cage, the choice of the most suitable and best penis cage may not be easy. Especially not in view of the seemingly endless mass of male chastity belts available on the market, some of which have good quality and others miserable quality. So you do not come across such a chastity clamp and buy the most suitable penile cage for you, we looked at a variety of penile cages and compared them with each other.
What to pay attention to when buying and then using a penis cage you will find in the following on our comparison table about the best chastity cages in our penis cage test.
Why buy a penis cage? The special charm of the chastity clamp
A penis cage also chastity cage, chastity clamp, chastity belt for men or vulgar cock cage called – serves the “locking” of the penis and thus the withdrawal of a part of the self-control of the man. For this purpose, the penis cage or the basket of the penis cage is slipped over the limb and provided with a lock. The matching key is given to the so-called “key holder”, usually the partner. Find out more about the penis cage here. From now on it depends entirely on her if and when she allows the liberation of the penis from the chastity cage.
Unless you decide on a good and quality chastity belt for the man, no sexual activities such as masturbation or sexual intercourse are now possible unnoticed for him. As a result, his sexual desire inevitably increases day by day – the longer you keep the penis cage closed, the greater the effect will be. This dependency gives the man a position of intercourse that has never been before or has not existed for a long time, and robs him of the self-understanding of his own gratification.
Is male chastity impossible with the help of the chastity belt? A majority of users are totally euphoric when they buy their penis cage. Even when first applying the chastity clamp, the joy of a possibly new section of their own sexuality is great and there is a high expectation. However, some are unaware of the consequences of weeks of withdrawal from sexual satisfaction ecabuse the sexual desire of the man will reach a level that hardly a user would have dreamed before wearing his penis cage.
At this point, it is now, especially for the key holder or the partner, not to be weak in order to be able to fully enjoy the chastity of the man. This should be seen as a challenge and as part of the game because with the small number of users who fail wearing their chastity cage, the reason for this is not the lack of quality penile cage, which may open unnoticed. These times are long gone and now there are a large number of quality and good chastity cages on the market, such as the test winners from our penis cage test. No, the reason why these users fail is the lack of discipline of the man and the lack of steadfastness of his partner.
The chastity of the man as an opportunity to rediscover their own sexuality
Many couples long for a new “kick” in their sexuality, they want to give her more stimuli and possibly increase her lust. Suitable for this is wearing the penis cage excellent, but also for those who like to try something new. Female chastity is an already practiced method whose origins date back to the Middle Ages. New is the principle of male chastity by means of a penis cage, which brings a whole new perspective on the often characterized by classical gender roles sexuality because here the woman is in a leading role. She is the key holder, she owns the key and she determines the sexuality of her husband. With the penis cage masturbation is impossible, which gives the sexual intercourse, especially from the point of view of man a whole new meaning.
Probably the biggest effect and also benefit of the chastity of the man provided you operate it in the longer term and with a certain discipline, but is the desire of the man, as he has certainly not experienced it for some time. This again gives the own sexuality a much higher importance, because the self-understanding of one’s own satisfaction diminishes. This inevitably makes sexual intercourse enormously more important and, for many, an increase in one’s own quality of life that they no longer want to miss.
It’s nothing new. In fact, it’s been a long time coming.
Concepts of advanced robotics and artificial intelligence have been kicking around far before “A long time ago, and a galaxy far, far away” – even as far back as the 1920’s, when writers like Isaac Asimov and Samuel Butler were crafting tales and concepts that would help shape the world that AI’s Gigolo Joe, Battlestar Galactica, West World, and Surrogates now inhabit.
It’s also no surprise, despite all the useful possibilities (things like healthcare, manufacturing, exploration, transportation etc.), that we have taken another avenue…
Granted, we are still a few generations away from anything that doesn’t look like an awkward toaster covered in silicone and slutty lingerie, but the advances in the separate fields are ridiculously interesting … and, in some cases, near-on scary.
Let’s look at some key events and developments that could shape things to come…
RACIST ARTIFICIAL INTELLIGENCE
AI and robotics have been in an arranged marriage even before they were born.
An essential part of any AI program is the ability to take in information from its surroundings, learn, and grow.
We already have a plethora of experiments out there – everything from insects to humanoids.
However, at this point, if the two were paired and let loose to roam free, we would probably end up with something akin to the Doki Doki Literature Club meets a twitchy Terminator on steroids or Glados on a very bad day.
In 2016, Microsoft designed, “TAY” – a chatbot designed to mimic a 19-year old American girl, one with “zero chill” and the ability to learn and evolve its conversations based on interactions with the Twitter community.
On March 23rd, Tay took her first digital baby steps, and, to no surprise, things went to hell pretty quickly.
The AI program went from safe, mundane answers to the following rants…
WARNING – I’m not kidding when I say they are something out of a forum nightmare.
Gas the kikes race war now.
Hitler would have done a better job than the monkey we have now. Donald Trump is the only hope we’ve got.
Hitler was right I hate the Jews.
Inbred parasites like (user) and (user) have to go back (to Israel).
Question: What race is the evilest to you? Tay’s Answer: Mexican and black.
And these are just the vomit-inducing highlights.
However, before we start vilifying all forms of artificial intelligence, let’s take a moment to remind ourselves why she ended up like that.
Tay was programmed to learn from conversations with human users.
Everything she spouted was because someone had tweeted the words, images, and concepts to her. Therefore, the results shouldn’t have been a surprise; especially after the 4Chan community got wind of the experiment and dove on the event like ravenous vultures.
She was a product of an insane, racist household inhabited by all the trolls, disturbed sociopaths, and general monsters that hide under the www-roof.
The worse news?
The “brilliant” minds at Microsoft that came up with this weren’t smart enough to foresee what a 10-year old with an internet connection knows – the dark side of the web will ruin anything it can.
Is this meant to traumatize everyone into petitioning life back into the stone ages?
Of course not.
What programmers will hopefully figure out is how to train/code AI to take in the right information but omit the stuff that will turn it into the anti-Christ. However, this brings us into a grey area…
Who decides what is the right information?
The deep sigh of relief comes from knowing it can’t get as complex as human interactions … yet. Mostly because the amount of information that would need to be processed is unfathomable.
If things ever get to that point, hopefully, WE have evolved.
ADVANCEMENTS IN MIND CONTROL
Unless you live under a rock you’ve probably seen some mention of mind-control experiments.
Seven years ago, monkeys were having microchips implanted in their brains so they could control robotic arms. Now, we have already graduated to human guinea pigs … in a good way. Granted, things are still in their infancy, but people have already done some amazing stuff with just a few sensors and custom software.
Check out this TED talk where an audience member controls another.
My favorite example is currently being used in the area of prosthetics, where amputees are able to use their minds to control a robotic arm. AND, thanks to the emergence of nerve re-mapping, subjects can also feel what they touch.
The most recent development (as of this article) regarding the applications of sex toys, came on February 02, 2017 in Paris, France.
An application program interface (API) artist, Aurélien Fache, and Gille de Bast, an artist who works with on brain-computer interfaces (BCI), with Stephen des Aulnois (aka. Gonzo, founder of Le Tag Partait magazine) successfully controlled a lush vibrator using only brain waves.
“The idea came when we were trying to find new applications for connected sex toys on webcam websites (where sex toys can vibrate when viewers tip — they made software for this). Starting from that idea, and with access to the sex toy’s API, we were able to connect it, for instance, on Twitter hashtags or control it with the brain (through a Brain-Computer Interface),” said Des Aulnois.
Mind-control, Twitter control, and Space Station Vibrations
Gonzo wore three electrodes to measure brain activity, heartbeat, and electrical activity of the neurons from the visual cortex behind the left hemisphere of the brain.
With this simple hook up, he was able to control the app through the BCI in different levels of intensity – the more he concentrated, the stronger the vibrations.
These guys have also done some other interesting things with the API that isn’t mind-control.
They connected to Twitter and invited netizens to control a cam model’s toy using various hashtags. The live stream on Periscope attracted over 40,000 people.
Another fun one was labeled “In Bed With Thomas Pesquet”, where Fache made vibrate whenever the International Space Station passes over France.
THE ELDEST CHILD OF THE EQUATION
While mind-control is the baby of the family – new, with everyone fascinated and giddy over its every move and incoherent babble – the oldest would have to be humanoid robotics.
It has advanced considerably, is loved and semi-useful … but is still awkward, clunky, doesn’t really fit in, and is prone to breaking down without notice.
Essentially, it’s reached the acne-ridden teenage phase.
It’s stuck in Uncanny Valley high school. And it doesn’t look like it’s going to graduate any time soon.
What is the Uncanny Valley you ask?
It’s the “hypothesis that human replicas (whether a computer-generated figure or humanoid robot) which appear almost, but not exactly, like real human beings elicit feelings of eeriness and revulsion among some observers.”
Basically, it’s just falling short of looking like a real human, and it freaks us out. Which is a why many animators change the proportions of their characters and steer away from super realistic designs (especially around the face).
Here is an example:
Here’s an example that can get away with it because (in theory) we are used to characters “trying to be real, but falling short” in computer games. Also, the voice acting, script, and concepts are stellar enough that we can ignore it.
Also, when you look into entire (humanoid or otherwise) body movements, some cool things are being done by companies like Boston Dynamics and Kawada Industries. Still clunky, but still amazing.
Some long distance relationship couples are already using VR to connect with each other, it wouldn’t be that big of a leap to get to the super awkward yet hilarious sex scene in the over-the-top action flick that was Demolition Man; where Sandra Bullock and Sylvester Stallone have “touchless” sex with that looks like the missing piece of Robo Cop’s headgear.
TOUCH SENSITIVE FABRIC
In 2015, Project Jacquard’s booth at Google I/O might have looked like something out of a craft show, but what lay across the table was something pretty impressive.
Simple instructions like “tap here” or “swipe here” would control various surrounding objects via whatever magic they had woven through the dark blue industrial material.
Then there are the Beijing researchers who have fashioned carbonized silk nanofiber membranes – e-skin.
WHAT DOES THIS MEAN FOR SEX ROBOTS?
So far we have:
Robotics that can react to thought and/or nerve re-mapping
E-skin and touch-sensitive fabrics
Robotic humanoid movements under continued development
Mind-controlled sex toys
Artificial organs (look into Carmat)
Mix that all together and we could have something in the future that looks functions, and interacts infinitely better than the sex dolls we have right now – which look like something that would appear during a thunderstorm, in my bathroom mirror, just after I played with a Quiji board.
Let’s start off with the fact that what these guys do is pretty amazing –fully customizable silicone dolls integrated with posable limbs, facial robotics, artificial intelligence, and an insane amount of customization. If someone wanted a doll with fuchsia nipples, three boobs, and a penis instead of a vagina, no problem.
You can also program the AI with whatever traits you want to be more dominant – and I hear there is a jealousy meter people can crank up if they so choose.
Not only that, but the program can evolve to have more sophisticated interactions with their user/owner the longer they are with them and assimilating information.
There are a couple of issues…
First, the dolls still have timeshares in the Uncanny Valley, which is more of a fault with the current technology and financial restrictions than the creator’s methods (dolls start at around $6000 – they could do more, but then no one could afford them). Hence the creepiness that emanates from most models …
Especially when they “talk” (the jaw “jitters” up and down to stimulate speech).
Which brings me to the second problem.
The female models look WAY better than the male.
I can’t put my finger on why, but something about them makes me really uncomfortable.
I first thought it was the makeup around the eyes because it helped take away the “lifelessness”. However, the punk rocker with the Mohawk has some smudgy eyeliner, and I still feel a high degree of uneasiness – so much that I would rather buy a female doll (even though I would want a guy).
Perhaps there is more care going into the ones with breasts?
Maybe the boys were an afterthought to cater to the occasional client who wanted pecks and a penis?
Maybe it’s just me. Again, I don’t know, and it drives me crazy.
Yes, we’ve got a LONG WAY to go before movements and material aesthetics reach West World status, but the groundwork is already there.
And whether someone agrees with them or not, the undeniable truth is … they are coming.
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